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Sucking the Life Out of You !

Sucking The Life Out of You – By Linda Bradt Finn
~ I am not sure about you all, but I have always tried to be a people pleaser and always help others… Sometimes, to the point that I am emotionally drained and dragged down. It wasn’t until 2015 that I finally realized there are folks who will always be an emotional drain on you and never listen to sound advice and never change their lives no matter how sick they are… I am talking physically, emotionally or mentally sick. Have you ever felt like that ? You do and do for others until your empty and you might not even have the energy for your own family that it has drained you so much… its not a good place to be. When you think family, I am talking those in your own house, not extended family outside your home. We have to focus on Us and our immediate family in our home as that is what matters at the moment. I know that is so true for me as a wife to a man with mental and physical disabilities and as a homeschooling mom of 3 who are still at home. There were days in my past where even my older kids as older teens and even as they become young adults or adults the drama and emotional damage that they can do to you , disabled me from doing my best for the Lord in my own home and it really reaps havoc on your family. Mark and I suffered a lot of emotional crap trying to raise my kids from a previous relationship. Even to the point of being investigated by CPS 4 times and found not guilty of the allegations put against us. And when it comes to “friends” those you have met, by letter, on the internet, or in person, I tended to go into each relationship 100% and thought others were the same way as I am. Time and time again, Mark would say “Lin, Human nature 101…smiling faces tell lies ” For so many years I never could see that as I was raised to be a real friend and a truthful person. So when I would help someone, send them things numerous times over a 14 year period and never see any fruit from the advise given or a changed lifestyle, you tend to wonder if what your doing is effective. When you strive to love people like the Lord wants you to and they act like you are treating them wrong, you get very discouraged at times. And if you know more folks who help the same people a lot and it seems like everyone’s love and mercy on them isn’t making them more responsible, but causing them to become dependent upon everyone, you have to re-examine what your doing…. When I started my business I had several friends doing the same business…. so I chose to sign up under someone that had friends in common with me, hoping none of your friends would feel hurt and yet I could do business along side them and if anyone wanted to know how I was succeeding , I would share my knowledge with everyone so we all learned and benefited. I love seeing others I know and love succeed ! So how much can you really help those who never change, you have watched and seen this is the reality right… With my older adult children, I don’t even like to use adult as they at times are so immature and self centered, they don’t have the qualities of adults who are mature… but with them, I learned that if I allow their drama in my home or near us, we all suffer harm emotionally and mentally. With others who are suppose to be Adults and never change as I was told at some point you burn that bridge, don’t look back and go on with your life and live without their drama and constant draining on your life…at least until they learn the lesson God is trying to teach them. Trials in life are for learning from and sometimes when we all step in the way of that, they never learn to stand on their own two feet and become dependents of whomever. ( its akin to the welfare in the US….constant handouts create an entitlement attitude at the expense of others who work hard to earn what they have.) We can only help just so much or we harm those we are trying to help by standing in Gods way to bring them to the understanding of the need to be God sufficient… God has known my heart for the last 15 years Mark and I have been married and regardless of what others think, its been in the right place and I truly meant to be a real friend.
Real Friendships and Relationships don’t suck the life out of you…
For a man to have friends, He must show himself/herself to be friendly…
Be Truthful, Be Honest, Be Responsible, Be Honorable, Don’t Whine
#LiveLifeOnPurpose #GodlyLiving #TrueFriendships #RealRelationships #BeTruthful #BeHonest #BeResonsible #BeHonorable #StoptheWhining #IhaveTried #BurningBridges
#NoMoreDrama #DramaQueen

Day 10 Balanced Challenge with Tricia Goyer

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March 20: Eight (Chapter Ten)

Today’s assignment from Tricia

Read chapter ten and come up with your list of “eight.” Then write down those eight themes on a pretty piece of paper and post it somewhere you’ll see it often (bathroom mirror, refrigerator, bulletin board, etc.). Then take a picture of it and post it on your blog.

Tried to upload my pretty paper , have to share later !

So after reading chapter 10 and thinking and praying on this, here is my Eight Life Themes as I see them Today. I didn’t see them while on life’s journey, but I have arrived at these 8 !  I loved this assignment, I started it not knowing what I could put on my list. Where had life taken me ?  I started writing my own life story and  I think it will have to be written in more then one book as I have been asked of the Lord to share to help others and to hopefully bring honor to the Lord.  That is the goal !

My Eight Life Themes

1. Don’t Let Rape Ruin You !

2. Joy found in Teen Pregnancy !

3. Delight After Divorce !

4. Abused but NOT Abandoned !

5. I am married to MARK, NOT Mental Illness !

6. Home a place of  Harmony and Happiness !

7. Don’t let a less than perfect Marriage, Rob your Merry Heart !

8. Facing the Bareness of Menopause: Becoming the Joyful Mother of Grandchildren !

Each one of these things has been dealt with in my life and  I want them to be challenges I overcame, not things that hindered me from living fully !  I have come along this path, sometimes by my own unwise choices, but I know that God can use All Things for my own good and hopefully he can use those things to the good of others as well.

As I write, I will have to remember to come here and share with my readers, those insights and blessings to be found along the way.

~ Linda ~


Day 9 Balanced Challenge with Tricia Goyer


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March 19: Inspiration and Relaxation (Chapter Nine)

Here was today’s assignment from Tricia

Give your mind a rest and a dose of good, old-fashioned inspiration. Carve out some time today to implement one of my tips about finding inspiration and enjoy the feeling of creativity. Then come up with your own list of ways you can find inspiration.

1. Reading Bible.  Daily getting into the Word encourages ! Do so with a great women’s study !

2. Pray. Pour your heart out to the Lord !  Pray for others ! Doing so brings much peace.

3. Read good biblically based women’s studies. This is an awesome way to start you day or to enjoy just a few spare moments in your day !

4. Follow and Read Godly Women’s blogs and websites.  I know this makes me feel wonderful.

5. Take up a creative Hobby. ie. Crocheting, Fiber Arts, Drawing, Quilting, Sewing, Baking , whatever you enjoy.

6. Listen to Uplifting Music. Music feeds the soul if it is the right music and makes you feel happy !

7. Put up inspiring Art Work in your Home. Wall Art, Bible verses. Decorate with little things in each room that you like.

8. Sing, sing and sing some more !  Singing lifts your spirits and creates a happy peaceful feeling.



9. Have fellowship with other women who encourage and inspire you ! Attend a womens conference on Joy, Love or whatever !   Like  Just Joy Ministries with Carol McLeod !

10. Take time out to enjoy being you !  Sit and enjoy your favorite drink and just think and relax ! Read your favorite books or do lunch with a friend , even  your Dear Husband to have fun.

 pink flowers sonoma christian home

God can and will restore your JOY and he will inspire you to go on to do great and awesome things ! When we have the Lord Jesus, we can accomplish anything that we seek to do within God’s will  for our lives !

Be Blessed

~ Linda ~



Day 8 Balanced Challenge with Tricia Goyer

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March 18: Make Today Amazing (Chapter Eight)

Today, I have taken your advice Tricia. I spent almost all day in my diningroom.  It sits on the south side of the house and gets all he sun and today it is sunny big time.  I needed sun. It makes me feel so much happier and my desk is out here to work at.  It decorated in light slate blue on bottom and a nice ribbon wallpaper with blue and yellow flowers on it.  I enjoy this room because it has a bright and cheery atmosphere.


I also asked DH if he had any plans !  Girl you should have known that was a dangerous question, At least we are like minded ! Tonight is in house date night ! I wonder if I change the clocks if we can fake the kids out and have some alone time ! LOL   Don’t tell me you have never set the clocks ahead to fake your kids out and get them to bed sooner…  If not , see if you can get an extra hour or two of alone time.

I do feel better today and the house has been more peaceful today !

I am thankful for My Salvation, My Family, My Sisters who bless me and so much more.

Today the girls and I looked at a website they wanted to look at and play on.

Today, I helped a Sister with a slight website problem, I am glad she isn’t paniced anymore.  I talked to another friend who is thinking about homeschooling and encouraged her.

Twice Today I was told I am an angel and that I bless others,  that is a nice feeling to be able to give to others from the heart and not expect anything in return.

But I have to admit to being allowed by Three Authors today to read , review and influence for them. I always feel good about blessing my Sisters in the Lord who write and my brothers too !

~ Linda~



Day 7 Balanced Challenge with Tricia Goyer


March 17: Teamwork (Chapter Seven)

Many hands make light work !

Boy did I hear that alot when I was a kid.  It was not a foreign concept to us growing up that we were to help.

For whatever reason kids today seem to think that they don’t have to do work or any kind.

That to me is sad as it makes for a home that doesn’t run well at all. You need two parents willing to make

this work, otherwise your beating a dead horse.

My DH keeps our fire going and helps with the Dishes and Laundry.

My Daughters are in charge of the Floors and all general cleanup and dishes part

of the time. They also get to take turns baking and cooking , if they have listened about doing those other things that

need doing.

You know I keep saying ” if you don’t make a mess, you won’t have to clean it up”

someday they will get the picture.

Daniel  helps me with putting silverware away and cleaning up his things. I have to admit that he does a

much better job then the girls when it comes to being helpful to me.  I don’t know about you all, but to me

boys seem so much easier to raise then girls.

We have had to have family meetings often as no one wants to keep up things when I am having physical issues.

~ Linda ~


Day 6 Balanced Challenge with Tricia Goyer !


Day 6 Balanced Challenge

March 16: Do What You Can (Chapter Six)

Well today was amazing !  I woke up and  my headache was gone ! Praise the Lord !

I have been Detoxing this is Day 4 of my detox !  I had been suffering horrible headaches while doing this. I have to

say that I am thankful that the headaches are gone.

I got right up, my lungs clear for a change and my head not in a fog or pain. I came down and started in cleaning up

from last nights late snacking.  Dishes , straightening and Reading the Word.

Psalms 37:4  was on my heart.

Yesterday I had learned that I won a brand new 7″ Kindle Fire HDX and Yes I had prayed for it.

That might sound funny, but I did !  I so wanted to have one just for my own reading, since I use it for

reading and reviewing books ect .  Also use it for apps that I review.  Well since last year when I won my first

Kindle Fire , the kids have enjoyed it so much for Reading and Learning Apps as well as games,

I seldom get time on it.

So to me this is a blessing !  I also learned this morning  I won a book that I really wanted to read and I was able to

have a  very sweet talk with the Author.

Daily I am on what the Time Warp Wife calls a 10 min tidy !

I did one today in the Living Room as kids didn’t realize that they had knocked

over my yarn and crochet thread.  So that took a mere 5 mins.

Folded Laundry while waiting for my tea water to heat.

Mixed my Detox while stacking dishes to be washed.

Cleaned up Bathroom while in doing my hair.

Took Laundry to the washroom on my way to get my Tea.

Brought my own laundry down to the washroom on my way to the kitchen.

Other then this I have spend my day working on a few pinterest boards and learning about an

Author I didn’t’ know well yet.  I also read a bit today. All in my little bits of time.

I will admit that 10 mins here or there gets much done. I am trying to instill this in my

Childrens lives. We were able to get the girls room cleaned up this week most the way.

I wanted this done as I want to paint there room this spring !

The first time I head of small times of cleaning was when someone started us women

who were on a christian ladies list on yahoo, doing Flylady.  I am not a flylady fan, but I do like the idea

of quick cleanups.  I am off to do some more clean up. Oh, snapping a few sunset shots first !

Oh Tricia, I love The Naturally Clean Home, got that March 1st last year !

~ Linda ~


Day 5 Balanced Challenge: Rank Those Priorities


  1. Things I have to do ( caring for, feeding and homeschooling children)
  2. Things I should do  (Dishes, Laundry, Cleaning, Fixing Food, Making sure Kids Bathe, Serving Others and Fellowship with other believers)
  3. Things I want to do ( My website w/blog (new), Read Books, Crochet, Quilt, Sew)
  4. Things I’m doing to “look good” or doing out of guilt (For me this is stop doing anything I enjoy and do what everyone else expects me to do)

I am going to be point blank honest. My van is dead, its been dead for over 4 months.  I have not left my domain for 3 months, not even to shop.( I let my DH) I hate the rat race of running to do stuff all the time. I am here in the Home. To me that is a good thing. Most of the time its relaxing just to be home. I am not much on calendars, but I keep on for my blog/to do list. (I am working on this area) I have a binder I found that I truly think I am going to love and intend to use. I also have a blog planner I am intending to use. I like using things I can see at a glance.  I would like to get one of those huge desk calendars that has 3×3 squares to write in for the day, so I can see all of it on that, but have it all written down in my planners into a combined large Binder. I want to have sections in my Binder for a Household planner, Homeschool planner and a Pantry planner. My favorite binders can be found at A Well Kept Home.

The binders I like I found at
Well Kept Home Planner Package


I was looking around for free ideas and came across this pinterest board today.


The one thing I still want to know is what calendar program your using Tricia ? Love the colors !

I tried Google Calendar and it just isn’t my thing, I suppose one day maybe it will be but for now I am one of those have to have it hardcopy type of girl !

I also am a rarely ever watch TV person !  I do tend to watch movies that are patterned after books I have read. Me time ? Whats that ? I don’t mind shopping but I have been too tired to do it myself. I do my own pedicures and manicures here at home. I would opt for more couple time !

I can’t wait till Spring is really here, the crocus are up and now they are saying snow again…

On day 3 of a detox, feeling like I got a nasty cold and headache…

Prayers Appreciated !